A self-fulfilling prophecy is a strong idea or belief in something that comes true or takes place as a result of our belief that it will. The success of our relationships and our happiness in our relationships is largely impacted on our attitudes about them. Here’s how self-fulfilling prophecies are at play in our relationships:
Thinking you’re not good enough. If you believe that you aren’t good enough for your partner, you’ll always be finding reasons why this is true. When you are looking for reasons to back up your theory, you’ll find them everywhere. Your lack of confidence will show up every time they talk to another guy/girl, and your insecurity will likely lead to the demise of the relationship. Even though your partner probably doesn’t think so, your belief that you aren’t good enough has the ability to kill the relationship as you act in a way that proves that they are better than you.
Thinking you don’t deserve to be happy. Lacking self-esteem and self-confidence ultimately translates into a belief that you don’t deserve happiness in your relationships. By thinking this, you will seek out partners that either don’t make you happy, or you’ll sabotage ones that have potential as a defense mechanism. So by believing that you don’t deserve to be happy, your actions will ensure that you never have the chance.